Hey,
I tried learning Japanese 6 years ago once. I started on a famous Kanji learning website, after few weeks I thought “yeah, this is just too much work” after realizing there are multiple ways to read same Kanji and I quit.
4 years ago I decided to try again. This time I thought “I just want to talk and understand what I hear”, that is why I ignored Kanji. I didn’t even touch it. For around 2 years I have focused on grammar and I have studied vocabulary with Anki daily. I have been studying around 1 hour per day so I am not that fast but yesterday I was talking with my Japanese friend on phone for more than 1 hour. When I went to Japan I was able talk to them in a cafe for hours. This was my goal, even though I am not very good yet and I make very simple mistakes, being able to do small talk with a native Japanese speaker feels nice.
When I talked about my plans 4 years ago, people said “you can’t learn Japanese without Kanji”. Now I think, if I have listened them, I wouldn’t be able to speak this much just by studying 1 hour per day and I don’t have much more extra time anyways. My goals were set and I created my own way of study for myself and it worked.
That is why I wanted to create this topic. Don’t allow people to gatekeep you from doing anything. We are smart enough to find our own ways. Do you want to read manga? Obviously focus on Kanji. Do you want to sit in a cafe and talk in Japanese? Maybe not so much. Even I started learning Kanji in last 2 years because I saw actual progress in other areas. Not studying Kanji for 2 years allowed me to learn how to speak so I had enough motivation for Kanji again.
Again, don’t allow people to decide anything for you.