Putting an Old friend to Rest

Today we gather to put a friend of mine to rest. Alas she was only two years old, and it was all my Fault.

At 784 days I lost my streak. It hurts. Admittedly I haven’t been doing as many reviews as I wanted in BunPro. Stress of possibly needing to move. Work stress or being sent out on a business trip needing to be scheduled last minute. Talking to some people about legal questions. I did JP on other apps.

But I could have taken a moment somewhere and just answered a question. And I didn’t. I did the best I could. And now I have only to do better.

But at least now we get to welcome a new streak into the world and this time I swear I’ll do better! My goal is to pass my old streak! Maybe pass it twice! It’s a benchmarker of amazing accomplishments!

Anyway thanks for coming to morn the loss of my old streak hope to catch back up someday!

If you have a streak loss to morn please feel free to do so here I didn’t see another thread for this

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I think staff are sometimes happy to reinstate a streak for particular cases if you consider there to be reasons to reinstate it.
However, building back a 784-day streak and even beyond to 1000+ seems like a noble objective :wink:

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Yeah I saw that they do that while looking up stuff. But I don’t think I’d like that streak. It’d be nice to get the achivement sooner but I missed the streak and even with valid reasons, but not due to tech issues or payment processing or something where I couldn’t not didn’t. I don’t think I could keep the old one.

I don’t think there’s anything bad in asking for it back, it just not for me.

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I am terribly sorry for your loss. May they rest in peace :,(

On another note, while yes they occasionally reinstate streaks, it’s mostly for unfair reasons. Here it seems like there were legit reasons it was lost and regretted. After all, what’s the point of having a streak if you can just keep it going no matter what? Don’t get me wrong, it still sucks but just saying I respect your decision!

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784 pushups, @Jake and the team will have a sports day coming up tomorrow!

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Is it cumulative, dependent on all the streaks lost on any given day? :eyes:
I reckon all those streaks of 1, 2, 3 days etc. might really add up from across all the users for the BunPro team to get working on :wink:

PS Star jumps are not a valid alternative to pushups!!!

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A friendly reminder, from someone who experiences similar self-pressures: You don’t have to do better, IMHO. You did your best. All you have to do is to continue to do your best! ‘Your best’ may change depending on the circumstances, but that’s okay.

Think about it this way: If someone has been actually ‘doing their best’, and yet they slipped up here or there, I mean – that’s just being human, right? Nobody’s perfect, we all will eventually make mistakes, even if we do our best.

But on the other hand, how is it even possible for someone to do better than their best? It’s literally not possible! So, would it be fair for someone to ask of that person, “Hey, I know you did your best, but you made a minor slip up here. Your best isn’t good enough. You have to do better than your best from now on!” Not really fair is it?

Likewise, after admitting to yourself that you indeed did your best, it’s not really ‘fair’ to yourself to then go on to say, “And now I have only to do better.” At least, that’s how I’ve come to terms with this self-pressure when I find myself doing it to myself:

"Hey, wait a second. It is literally impossible for anyone, me included, to do better than their best. That’s a bit unrealistic, and hence a bit unfair to myself. I’m only human.

"But! Of course I can continue to do my best. And indeed, if/when I learn from my past mistakes, my ‘future best’ may indeed be ‘better’ than my ‘past best’ – learning is also something us humans excel at, after all – but if (due to whatever circumstances) my future best happens to not be better than my past best, that’s still okay. Because I will still just be ‘doing my best’, which is the most that anyone could reasonably ask of me!

“So, to be reasonable to myself, I will only ask myself to just do ‘my best’, whatever ‘my best’ may be at the time.”

That’s one of the things I really like about the Japanese verb 頑張る (がんばる) and the associated phrase, 「がんばってね!」, “Do your best!”

I’m not sure of the entire cultural nuance of the verb and/or phrase, but to me I’ve taken them to mean exactly what I wrote about above:

Just がんばってね / “do my/your best” because that’s all that anyone can ever reasonably ask or expect of me/us, including myself/ourselves.

Of course I will continue to “do my best” after a mistake. I won’t use this as some sort of excuse to cover up for my mistakes, or not to learn and improve from my mistakes.

But on the other hand, this will also remind me that mistakes are inevitable, and also that circumstances may change, and it is reasonable (and probably more healthy, to be honest) to be more forgiving of my own mistakes or personal limitations on any given day.

Sorry if this came across as preachy in any way. It is only my own perspective, and what works for me may not work for others. Still, I hope it is perhaps helpful or useful in some way, to anyone who may happen to read it.

Cheers! And, がんばってね!:blush::raised_hands:

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Can someone explain how the streak works?? I clear my reviews every day (and before midnight) but I get this strange pattern that makes it look like I skipped a day and did the two days worth on one day. Because of this I’ve never payed attention to my streak.


I miss a few days here and there but its pretty consistent with this shape since I started again.

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Is your timezone correct in account settings?

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See the BunPro team coming out of their office
“Are they like professional body builders?”
“Nah they make a language app”
“Why buff?”
“One pushup for every day of a lost streak”
Maybe someone should allow alternative workout options tho. This was so funny to consider.

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I totally get where you’re coming from, and I certainly don’t want others to feel they need to adopt my sensibility on this. And I feel like all this came from a good place and was feel good to read even if it’s not wholly my world view

You’re not wrong I can’t do better than my best, and that I’m human and make mistakes. But. I like to think my best is improving and striving to become a better me is always good. Like I’m always happy when I get my new highest DDR score as a little achivement I do my best each time sometimes that’s worse sometimes it’s better, but celebrating my new bests is always fun. That’s more what I meant.

There are certainly people who use this world view toxicly through and I feel your good place vibes coming worrying that others might beat themselves up too much. I love the community here even if I mostly lurk and am happy with the companionship to all the study successes and the comfort in the losses. Y’all are awesome!

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