てほしい - Grammar Discussion

I want you to

Structure

  • Verb[ ] + ほしい

[てほしい is used for when you want someone else to do something]
[たい is used when the speaker wants to do something or the speaker is speaking from someone else’s point of view ]

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Can you use してもらいたい to the same effect?

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@ulurujamman

Hey and welcome on the community forums :partying_face: Sorry for the extremely slow answer :bowing_man:

Yes, you can express the same idea using てもらいたい.
It will have the same meaning, but will be more indirect and therefore more polite. Plus, てほしい is used MUCH more often than てもらいたい.
You can make it even less direct by using てもらいたいんですが(and not finishing the sentence), it will make it into a more hesitant request.

When you want to make a more humble request, when speaking to superior and the like you can use ていただきたいです (or again, ていただきたいんですが)

I hope it helps,
Cheers!

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コーラを ________ です。[買う]
I want you to buy [me] a cola.

Why is かってくれてほしい not correct?